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The Worst Thing Today

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Postby LCW » Thu March 26th, 2009, 4:34 pm

MLE, what a heartbreaking thing to have to go through! Your plan is a good one though. Sometimes the right thing to do is a bit compliated! I wish Samuel a peaceful journey to the rainbow bridge. :(

I sort of feel bad for what's bothering me right now but my fiance's father is not doing well, he's not on death's door or anything but definitely not doing great. He has diabetes and heart issues among many other things. He has refused for years now to take care of himself, can barely feel his legs because has sat around for years with no exercise and he smokes and now has no circulation which causes wounds and he falls all the time. He eats cookies and candy all day, smokes like a freight train but no amount of pleading will make him change his ways.

The thing is we planned to go on an overseas vacation since we didn't really have much of one last year. But my fiance wants to put everything on hold because of his father. I understand his concern (trust me, I help care for him) but how much of our life will be put on hold because of this?? And for how long? I feel awful for even being frustrated about this but it really bothers me!
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Postby LoveHistory » Thu March 26th, 2009, 9:09 pm

You don't have to feel bad about it. You're allowed to have your own life too.

A lot of longtime diabetics burnout and stop checking their bloodsugar and going to the doctor. My husband's been diabetic for more than 20 years and there are times he just wants to stop everything and live like other people do. Diabetes can be life and death every day. It's a lot of pressure.

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Postby MLE (Emily Cotton) » Fri March 27th, 2009, 1:13 am

Thanks, guys. The nonprofit did get hold of the vet (hard, because there used to be 5 large-animal vets in the area, and now there are only 2) and Samuel went home. (All animals go to heaven, as far as I am concerned.)

AliceAnn, his former owner, is heartbroken. I'll miss him too, although his raucous heehaw often made me thankful that llamas are essentially silent animals.

I can sympathize with you on the diabetic (soon to be) father-in-law, Lydia. My husband had alcoholic/type II diabetic parents, and they both smoked like chimneys and died in their early sixties. But on the other hand, you don't want to marry a man who is uncaring about his parents, even if they are really self-destructive. It's probably his compassionate nature that drew you to your fiancee in the first place. You can celebrate that, even if you have to stay home until whenever. There's always another chance to go on vacation.
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Postby LoveHistory » Sun March 29th, 2009, 5:53 am

My seven year old had a night terror about an hour ago. I can't get back to sleep. He used to have them on a regular basis about three years ago. I know he wasn't really awake but he seemed absolutely terrified and was calling for me even though I was right there talking to him. Screaming out "no" and "stop" and I have no idea what was happening to him in the dream or whatever it was. I'm really worried about him. His appetite is way down too. The doctor says he's fine, but I can't help getting concerned. I wish he could tell me what's going on in his mind. I feel like the autism is taking him away again. I've talked to his specialist and we're adjusting some things, but at this hour of the night my heart hurts for my baby.

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Postby pat » Sun March 29th, 2009, 7:29 am

I was about to go and do some pruning of the front roses, and on opening the gate, it broke and trapped my finger in the latch. My knuckle is bruised, it broke the skin and is swollen. It is not broken, as I can still bend it, but it hurts like mad!
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Postby nona » Sun March 29th, 2009, 2:12 pm

we bought new four wheelers for my husband and I but we couldn't pick them up til thur. so wed nigt we drove out to the farm and got our trailer but there was no parking here where we lived so we parked half on the curb out of the way of traffic and so forth, thur morning when I woke up to go to work guess what, my truck and trailer were gone. they towed it! $478.56 to get them back and I had to jump through hoops to prove they were mine, even though I had a title and registration for both. ugh! I hate security guards with too much time on their hands!!!

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Postby Divia » Wed April 1st, 2009, 7:32 pm

I'm sick! I've been out of work for two days. I had a cold, a nasty one but now I am wondering if its starting to become bronchitis. Does that happen? I dunno but I'm coughing something fierce!
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Postby michellemoran » Wed April 1st, 2009, 8:33 pm

Lovehistory, that's very sad. I hope it gets better.

Nona - that's awful.

And Divia... I hope you feel better and it doesn't turn into something like bronchitis.

As for me, we're moving tomorrow. We put our beautiful house up for sale expecting it to take at least six months to a year to sell (which would have been perfect timing, as we wanted to be out in August). Instead, it sold in a week! Ooops. Didn't plan for that. So now we're moving tomorrow, putting all of our furniture into storage and renting a cottage in the woods until we decide where we're going next. But ugh... I hate the process of moving!!!
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Postby nona » Fri April 3rd, 2009, 12:12 pm

yesterday I donated blood at work, they come by every three months or so and I always donate kinda a memory of a passed love one thing. It's my 12th time, I have never got sick or anything and they ask me to do a double unit, I said sure why not.

45 minutes later...

as I was finishing up I passed out and they said my body temp dropped 6 degrees they freaked out so I was told. three hours of laying down and two waters and three gatorades and of course the crackers they forced me to eat I was up...to going home.

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Postby princess garnet » Fri April 3rd, 2009, 3:59 pm

Lately I've had to put up with a homeless man with mental issues call out unseemly comments to me when I'm coming into work. Unfortunately those comments for me.
I've had to deal with him before while working the general information desk in the main lobby. He yelled out to me while waiting in the express computer line. Since then he's been trying to learn my name too. :(
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