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The Worst Thing Today

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Divia
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Location: Always Cloudy, Central New York

Postby Divia » Sun October 30th, 2011, 11:43 pm

hot water tank died.
This was after the furnace was broke.
My tv broke as well.

WTF.
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LoveHistory
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Location: Wisconsin, USA
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Postby LoveHistory » Tue November 1st, 2011, 3:31 pm

That's awful, Divia. Remember that after Tuesday even the calendar says WTF.

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Brenna
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Location: Delaware

Postby Brenna » Wed November 9th, 2011, 2:56 pm

A co-worker of mine was diagnosed last Thanksgiving with Stage 4 brain cancer. After a very brave fight, she was moved to hospice today. She is only 40 years old and beat breast cancer about 5 years ago (the two are not related). I wasn't close to her, but it feels like a dark cloud is over work right now and it's hard to concentrate. Some people are laughing and joking around and I wonder how they can do that. I'm left with the feeling of "I should have tried talking to her more or I should have given her more chances" (I always thought she didn't like me so I avoided her when possible). Life is so precious and I just want to be home with my husband and Padfoot and hold them tight...
Brenna

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Madeleine
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Currently reading: A Suitable Vengeance by Elizabeth George & The Dark Angel by Elly Griffiths
Preferred HF: Plantagenets, Victorian, crime
Location: Essex/London

Postby Madeleine » Wed November 9th, 2011, 3:33 pm

That's terrible news Brenna. I wouldn't take any notice of your colleagues, let them get on with it - maybe it's their way of handling an awkward situation.
Currently reading "A Suitable Vengeance" by Elizabeth George and "The Dark Angel" by Elly Griffiths

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LoobyG
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Location: Derbyshire, UK

Postby LoobyG » Wed November 9th, 2011, 4:18 pm

Sorry to hear this Brenna, it's so very sobering when something like this happens to someone so young and who you've worked with. Take care of yourself and give your loved ones extra special hugs when you can x

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LoveHistory
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Postby LoveHistory » Wed November 9th, 2011, 4:43 pm

Sorry, Brenna. My brother's cancer (the one who died in January at age 40) taught my family that we have to laugh in the darkest times. That's the way we are. Maybe your coworkers are the same way. Or maybe they are unfeeling bastards. I don't know. I am sorry that you are feeling so bad. And very sorry for the coworker who is ill.

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Brenna
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Location: Delaware

Postby Brenna » Fri November 11th, 2011, 4:24 pm

Thanks everyone. I know most of the people, including myself, have been expecting this from the beginning, so it isn't much of a shock. However, I've never been a person able to laugh and carry on during times like these, therefore it is hard to hear others doing so.

A couple of staff members are going to visit her this afternoon. She will likely not make it through the night as she is now refusing food and drink and not responding to people's voices. I know this is a very difficult time for her family and I don't know how they feel about staff members coming at this time vs it just being family. So many questions and thoughts, it's difficult to process.
Brenna

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DianeL
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Postby DianeL » Fri November 11th, 2011, 7:08 pm

I laughed the day my father died, and that was not disrespectful of him. He was a man to engender joy, and losing him after a terminal disease was only a release for him. We were sad, but could hardly have wished him anything but relief from suffering. More than anything else, we were so aware of our gratitude for his love. Maybe he *gave* us the strength to laugh. He would have hated to give us the sorrow of mourning.
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Brenna
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Location: Delaware

Postby Brenna » Sat November 12th, 2011, 12:49 am

"DianeL" wrote:I laughed the day my father died, and that was not disrespectful of him. He was a man to engender joy, and losing him after a terminal disease was only a release for him. We were sad, but could hardly have wished him anything but relief from suffering. More than anything else, we were so aware of our gratitude for his love. Maybe he *gave* us the strength to laugh. He would have hated to give us the sorrow of mourning.


Diane-thank you so much for that. Such a positive way to look at this whole situation. Our dear co-worker passed away about an hour ago. I'm so thankful I was able to see her this afternoon and relieved her pain is now gone.
Brenna

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Madeleine
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Currently reading: A Suitable Vengeance by Elizabeth George & The Dark Angel by Elly Griffiths
Preferred HF: Plantagenets, Victorian, crime
Location: Essex/London

Postby Madeleine » Sat November 12th, 2011, 2:51 pm

I'm glad you got to see her, but sorry to hear that your colleague has passed. My condolences to you.
Currently reading "A Suitable Vengeance" by Elizabeth George and "The Dark Angel" by Elly Griffiths


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